Studies have shown that 40% of our actions are not conscious but habits. An important characteristic of a habit is that it’s automatic – we don’t always notice it in our behaviors. Habits make us highly efficient but some of these habits can be toxic to us.
Here are some of the habits that we may be unaware of and are harmful to us:
People-pleasing
People-pleasing can be a chronic habit that’s tough to break and can affect our mental health. The eagerness to please can leave us feeling emotionally depleted, stressed, and anxious.
Start getting out of the people-pleasing habits by accepting that you simply can’t please and be liked by everyone. Practice saying no to something small or taking a stand for something you believe.
Constant Worrying
Worries are a normal part of life but worrying excessively keeps one occupied, ultimately wasting time and energy, especially on things that we can’t control. It can take a toll on our emotional and physical health.
If you struggle with constant worrying, keeping a journal can be a great idea. If anxious thought or worry comes into your head, make a brief note of it, and then continue about your day. You can go over your worry list later. If the thoughts still bother you, write about whatever is on your mind. Then re-read and re-think. Reflect on your concerns. Ask yourself “Is there something that you can change?” or “Is it out of your control?”
Procrastination
Procrastination is the habit of delaying an important task, usually by focusing on less urgent, more enjoyable, and easier activities instead. It can be toxic to your productivity and mental health. It can cause you to miss deadlines, feel overwhelmed, and experience anxiety and stress.
To stop procrastinating, start by setting realistic goals and deadlines. Break the task into smaller and manageable pieces so that your task doesn’t seem so overwhelming.
Comparing ourselves to others
People have an innate drive to compare themselves to others. This can be good for self-improvement but too much comparison leads to unhappiness and low self-esteem.
When you have the urge to compare yourself to others, remind yourself that you’re already good enough. Focus on your strengths and past successes. Think about how far you’ve come in the last five years.
Not letting go of the past
It’s very difficult to let go of experiences that have caused us pain and suffering but the desire to cling to the past affects our present and future. It hurts us mentally, spiritually, and physically.
If you find it difficult to let go of the past, start by accepting your feelings, including anger, and make a commitment to let go.
Final Thoughts
Good habits serve us, but bad habits affect our well-being. In this blog, I share with you some of the toxic habits that we may not be aware of and are harmful to us. I hope this will help you to be aware of the bad habits that do not serve you.