People-pleasers always put other people first. They cater to other people’s needs at the expense of their own needs and well-being. They are often seen as being kind and helpful, but constantly making time for others can take an emotional toll.
This article provides tips to help you stop putting other people’s needs before your own well-being and ensure that you take care of your own needs.
Setting Boundaries
Start by being aware if someone is asking too much then setting clear boundaries, and then communicating those limits. Some examples are: 1) Let them know that you need time for yourself to enjoy the things you love. 2) Give each other space in a relationship
Stall for time
If someone needs your help, always remember you don’t have to respond to the request right away. Tell them you need some time to think about it. By doing this, you’re allowing yourself to decide how much time is needed and if you have the desire or time for this request.
Learn to say “No”
Saying “no” is tough. But if you want to stop being a people-pleaser, it’s essential to learn to say no to others confidently. It’s a skill that requires practice.
Remember you’re not responsible for other people’s emotions
If you always say yes because you fear that you might disappoint others, remember that you can’t be held responsible for things you can’t control, they are the ones who can control and be responsible for their own emotions.
Understand you can’t please everyone
It feels good when someone is happy with you but that doesn’t mean that you’ve to be a people-pleaser. Remember that it’s not possible to make everyone happy or satisfied all the time.
Final Thoughts
Remember that you can’t make everyone happy because we are all different, so stop being a people-pleaser and start putting your needs first.